What’s your relationship with endings?

Maybe it’s because loyalty is one of my essential values. Maybe it feels like a form of surrender and I’m just never good at that. It could be that a final decision makes me nervous since I much prefer to keep my options open. Or perhaps it’s because I’d rather not clean up after myself. […]

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Unexpected grace

Last fall I was in the Fort Lauderdale airport returning home from a final memorial service for my brother. It had been another visit full of all kinds of emotions, mostly love, loss, sorrow, and the joy of connection with my brother’s circle of friends. I was a sea of feelings in the busy and […]

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Sleep thieves

It’s late and I’m exhausted. My honey is sound asleep next to me. The dog is softly snoring and the cat is curled up against me, purring. We are all safe and comfortable, well fed and cozy. And I can’t quite turn off my light and let myself drift into sleep. Not yet. The sleep thieves […]

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Today is the day

In many wisdom traditions there’s a knife-edge teaching that encourages one to let death be an ally. This means living today as if it’s our last. This means looking death in the eye, rather than pushing it as far away as possible. This means finally recognizing that perhaps all that we put off for another […]

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The stories we tell

We are story telling people. We gossip, we pass on family history, we make up stories about strangers and close friends all day long. We love books and movies and TV. We respond to the stories of others. We are story junkies! These stories we tell our selves and others shape our lives. In relationship […]

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Starting with love

My reference point, my starting point, my ground of being is love and her sisters, gratitude and compassion. Of course, then, they are with us from the beginning of building our power-from-within. We are love. We are loving and loveable. There’s no need to prove anything to anybody or people please. As Mary Oliver says […]

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Running with wild horses in the moonlight

Building our power-from-within in a soul stealing world When I ended up in the emergency room so many years ago, my heart was racing out of control. My life felt on one hand as if everything was moving ahead as planned, and on another as if I was being pushed along by forces completely out […]

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Perfectly good reasons

We need vast oceans of self-compassion as we begin any exploration of thriving in our oh-so busy world. Because if we don’t start from deep non-judgment and compassion, we are yet again telling ourselves there’s something wrong with us. There are perfectly good reasons why we often end up feeling overwhelmed, unable to catch up, […]

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Failing into Success

Everyone I know is terrified of failure. We’ve been raised with “failure is not an option,” and besides, we want to achieve and do a good job in as many ways as we can. We want to be seen and recognized for our best. So whenever I work with my clients – either individuals or […]

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Lies that kill the spirit

I lie all the time. Yeah, well don’t be so quick to judge me because I know you lie all the time, too. I’ve never met a woman who didn’t lie – to herself – on a regular basis. And I know men have their lie repertoire as well. No, we’re not all manipulative, deceptive, […]

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