Everyone I know is terrified of failure. We’ve been raised with “failure is not an option,” and besides, we want to achieve and do a good job in as many ways as we can. We want to be seen and recognized for our best. So whenever I work with my clients – either individuals or […]
I lie all the time. Yeah, well don’t be so quick to judge me because I know you lie all the time, too. I’ve never met a woman who didn’t lie – to herself – on a regular basis. And I know men have their lie repertoire as well. No, we’re not all manipulative, deceptive, […]
Sometimes what we want most in the world is for another person to change. If only she would see my side… If only he would talk to me… If only the boss would do things my way… If only my mother would love me more… If only I were queen of the known universe and […]
I call it “The Lady in Waiting Syndrome.” You know it, I’m sure, that dead-end place we often find ourselves where we stay, passively and devotedly, in service to someone else’s grand dreams. We’ve all known it, that quietly desperate posture we assume of subservience, of not wanting to make anyone uncomfortable, where we […]
I call it the Eyes Bigger Than Stomach Syndrome (EBTSS) – one of the many reasons why our need/desires can often exceed our resources to meet them. Whether speaking for just myself or for the various non-profit teams I work with, EBTSS often is a main cause in the debilitating malaise of being overwhelmed, burned […]
Recently I have come to believe that everything really is all about me – not in the way that I wish everyone knew it was all about me, as in lavishing attention on me and catering to my every need. Rather in that damnable, disgusting, infuriating, and preferably avoidable way is it all about me: […]
Yet another politician embroiled in a sex scandal is teetering on the edge of a fall from power. As we roll our eyes or hunt for the salacious details, I’m drawn to the exploration of power – who gets it, how hard is it to hold onto, what is it anyway, oh, and how can […]
A hidden cavern deep within me has been echoing with the hollowness of broken promises. Not just an occasional relapse from a well-established practice, absolute abandonment is the cause for this stubborn ache. I have deserted myself. The hardest promises to keep are the ones we make to ourselves. And when we keep making […]
A field trip to the circus in first grade forever shifted my sense of women and power. In the midst of the magic and wonder of wild animals, vibrant color, exotic sounds, daring entertainers and cotton candy I was enchanted by the lady lion tamer. More than 50 years later I can still see her […]