Everyone I know is terrified of failure. We’ve been raised with “failure is not an option,” and besides, we want to achieve and do a good job in as many ways as we can. We want to be seen and recognized for our best. So whenever I work with my clients – either individuals or […]
I lie all the time. Yeah, well don’t be so quick to judge me because I know you lie all the time, too. I’ve never met a woman who didn’t lie – to herself – on a regular basis. And I know men have their lie repertoire as well. No, we’re not all manipulative, deceptive, […]
Sometimes what we want most in the world is for another person to change. If only she would see my side… If only he would talk to me… If only the boss would do things my way… If only my mother would love me more… If only I were queen of the known universe and […]
Maybe it’s because of the frigid temps and the long dark nights. Or it could be due to the expectations that the fresh start of the New Year stirs up. Maybe it’s the aftermath of the frenetic energy of the holidays. I’m certainly noticing my conflicting inner drives of “slow down and breathe” clashing with […]
At this very moment I am in grave danger – and I know that I am not the only one in this precarious position. No, my purse has not been stolen while I was abroad and you do not have to send me money to get home. I am in the middle of attempting to […]
I’ve been told I had an imaginary friend as a child. With all my heart I wish I could see her now, could remember my way to sensing her again. Like the dutiful eldest daughter I have always been, I grew up well behaved, I grew into a straight A+ student, physics major, accomplished business […]
Organization and Relationship Systems Coaches (ORSC) are trained to work with the soul of the relationship rather than simply the individual members of each couple, family, or team. In ORSC lingo this soul essence of a relationship is called the Third Entity™. It is considered to be the unseen essence of the relationship that is […]
One of the most hurtful things we do to our loved ones, and we do it all the time without thinking, is to project our inner judging voice out on to them. It is perfectly understandable that we do this and at the same time it is death by a thousand little cuts for ourselves, […]
There’s something about the winter sky at twilight that whispers to me. Maybe it’s the stillness of the cold, crisp air. Maybe it’s the primitive awareness of the coming night and what it will take to survive it. Maybe it’s knowing another precious day is spent. Maybe it’s the wake up call before darkness falls. […]
One of my coaching colleagues told us a funny story of how her husband has what they call buffet anxiety. He gets really nervous when even thinking about going to buffets or “all you can eat” restaurants. He worries about what to choose to eat, what if he passes up something really good or what […]