Why should we bother getting to know more about generational differences and how they’re impacting us? I mean, there have always been differences between the age groups (think of those who used to walk 5 miles in a blizzard to school versus those of us who wanted to drive our own cars 12 blocks, getting […]
Need Exceeding Resources, Part 2
I call it the Eyes Bigger Than Stomach Syndrome (EBTSS) – one of the many reasons why our need/desires can often exceed our resources to meet them. Whether speaking for just myself or for the various non-profit teams I work with, EBTSS often is a main cause in the debilitating malaise of being overwhelmed, burned […]
When Need Exceeds Resources, Part 1
Recently I have come to believe that everything really is all about me – not in the way that I wish everyone knew it was all about me, as in lavishing attention on me and catering to my every need. Rather in that damnable, disgusting, infuriating, and preferably avoidable way is it all about me: […]
The Privilege of Consensus Reality
Organization and Relationship Systems Coaches (ORSC) are trained to work with the soul of the relationship rather than simply the individual members of each couple, family, or team. In ORSC lingo this soul essence of a relationship is called the Third Entity™. It is considered to be the unseen essence of the relationship that is […]
Judging Each Other
One of the most hurtful things we do to our loved ones, and we do it all the time without thinking, is to project our inner judging voice out on to them. It is perfectly understandable that we do this and at the same time it is death by a thousand little cuts for ourselves, […]
Political Sex Scandals Expose Three Kinds of Power
Yet another politician embroiled in a sex scandal is teetering on the edge of a fall from power. As we roll our eyes or hunt for the salacious details, I’m drawn to the exploration of power – who gets it, how hard is it to hold onto, what is it anyway, oh, and how can […]
Keeping Promises
A hidden cavern deep within me has been echoing with the hollowness of broken promises. Not just an occasional relapse from a well-established practice, absolute abandonment is the cause for this stubborn ache. I have deserted myself. The hardest promises to keep are the ones we make to ourselves. And when we keep making […]
When Darkness Falls
There’s something about the winter sky at twilight that whispers to me. Maybe it’s the stillness of the cold, crisp air. Maybe it’s the primitive awareness of the coming night and what it will take to survive it. Maybe it’s knowing another precious day is spent. Maybe it’s the wake up call before darkness falls. […]
The Gift of Deeply Listening
Tricky thing – speech. On one hand it provides us with the unique and precious opportunity of our species to share complex information with each other. On the other hand it can incite misunderstanding and separation between us in a nano second. How do we walk with this double edged sword? One starting place is […]
Hunting Hundreds of Hawks
The first time we happened upon a dark cyclone of 50 or more hawks swirling together up from the ground into the early evening sky we were hooked. So hooked and wanting more that we now spend many late August and early September afternoons driving dusty dirt roads in the Colorado grassland hoping to have […]