If only

Sometimes what we want most in the world is for another person to change. If only she would see my side… If only he would talk to me… If only the boss would do things my way… If only my mother would love me more… If only I were queen of the known universe and […]

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Season of wanting

Maybe it’s because of the frigid temps and the long dark nights. Or it could be due to the expectations that the fresh start of the New Year stirs up. Maybe it’s the aftermath of the frenetic energy of the holidays. I’m certainly noticing my conflicting inner drives of “slow down and breathe” clashing with […]

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Backing away from the edge

At this very moment I am in grave danger – and I know that I am not the only one in this precarious position. No, my purse has not been stolen while I was abroad and you do not have to send me money to get home. I am in the middle of attempting to […]

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What dies inside

I’ve been told I had an imaginary friend as a child. With all my heart I wish I could see her now, could remember my way to sensing her again. Like the dutiful eldest daughter I have always been, I grew up well behaved, I grew into a straight A+ student, physics major, accomplished business […]

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What are you waiting for?

  I call it “The Lady in Waiting Syndrome.” You know it, I’m sure, that dead-end place we often find ourselves where we stay, passively and devotedly, in service to someone else’s grand dreams. We’ve all known it, that quietly desperate posture we assume of subservience, of not wanting to make anyone uncomfortable, where we […]

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Who cares about generational differences, anyway?

Why should we bother getting to know more about generational differences and how they’re impacting us? I mean, there have always been differences between the age groups (think of those who used to walk 5 miles in a blizzard to school versus those of us who wanted to drive our own cars 12 blocks, getting […]

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Need Exceeding Resources, Part 2

I call it the Eyes Bigger Than Stomach Syndrome (EBTSS) – one of the many reasons why our need/desires can often exceed our resources to meet them. Whether speaking for just myself or for the various non-profit teams I work with, EBTSS often is a main cause in the debilitating malaise of being overwhelmed, burned […]

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When Need Exceeds Resources, Part 1

Recently I have come to believe that everything really is all about me – not in the way that I wish everyone knew it was all about me, as in lavishing attention on me and catering to my every need. Rather in that damnable, disgusting, infuriating, and preferably avoidable way is it all about me: […]

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The Privilege of Consensus Reality

Organization and Relationship Systems Coaches (ORSC) are trained to work with the soul of the relationship rather than simply the individual members of each couple, family, or team. In ORSC lingo this soul essence of a relationship is called the Third Entity™. It is considered to be the unseen essence of the relationship that is […]

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Judging Each Other

One of the most hurtful things we do to our loved ones, and we do it all the time without thinking, is to project our inner judging voice out on to them. It is perfectly understandable that we do this and at the same time it is death by a thousand little cuts for ourselves, […]

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